Is Lack of Confidence Holding You Back?

By: BCN Communications

Category: Professionals, Students

As a hairstylist or make-up artist, one of the most important traits you need to be successful in your field is self-confidence. You may have the most innovative ideas, you may be keeping up with the latest trends, you may possess great technical skills to execute exactly what your client wants, but, if you are lacking in self-confidence, those positive traits won't mean anything. Your work quality will eventually suffer, because if you do not believe in yourself, how can your clients believe in you?

So, before your work is affected, you may want to pay attention to these warning signs that your self-confidence needs some work:

You need constant validation from co-workers or your boss.

If you have low self-confidence, you won't trust your judgment on anything, including your work. Even if your work is great, and you feel that it is great, you won’t have the courage to admit it and feel good about it until a co-worker or your boss assures you that you have done a great job. This need for validation from others due to the inability to trust your judgments is a major sign of low self-confidence.

You continually compare yourself to others.

If you always compare yourself and your work to your co-workers, it could imply that you are lacking in self-confidence. For example, you may always compare the number of clients a co-worker has to your own, and if they have more, you feel bad about yourself and think you are not doing a good job. This is an unhealthy competition. You will not be able to be happy for the success of those around you, and your success will never truly bring you real happiness unless you understand that the only person you need to compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday. Always strive for personal growth.

You are unable to take constructive criticism.

Do you often find yourself automatically going on the defensive when someone gives you feedback on your work? Do you tend to take constructive criticism too personally instead of trying to improve?

These are signs that you are lacking in self-confidence. A confident stylist always takes any kind of criticism objectively, rather than reacting. They understand that everyone makes mistakes, and if anyone has anything to point out about them or their work, they are grateful that it has been brought to their attention so they can learn from it. And if they feel the criticism is not justified, they will calmly and politely state that even though they respect the opinion, they do not agree.

You allow small setbacks to bring you down.

Do you give up too easily? Maybe your confidence needs a boost. You allow small setbacks to bring you down. Even though it is normal and okay to feel low sometimes, what’s important is that you always get back up. And this is where your lack of self-confidence will affect you. You will stay down, even for minor reasons. For example, one small complaint from a client may shatter your belief in yourself.

You feel that you have to justify your actions.

If you find yourself explaining all of your actions and decisions, no matter how minor, it is a sign that you are lacking in self-confidence. For example, if a co-worker asks you if you could cover their shift, and instead of saying a simple, “I’m sorry but no”, you come up with long explanations, excuses, and reasons as to why you cannot help him/her out. Understand that you do not owe anyone anything, and you can always say “no”. In fact, “no” is a complete sentence.

Find ways to trust yourself more and banish those creeping feelings of doubt. Building confidence is a worthwhile journey that will help you to achieve great success in your professional life, as well as in your personal life.

Tags: Student, Stylist, Professional, Goals, Strengths, Coaching, Career Advice